Empowerful.

Joss Whedon has gotten a lot of well-deserved shit over the years for his particular Nice Guy approach to feminism, wherein a dude feels entitled not to sex but to legitimate feminist cred for being Nice. Not knowing the guy personally, and having no interest in reading the many, many things he's had to say about himself and his philosophy, I don't know if he honestly believes that being a leather-clad dominatrix is empowering for women. However, I have a feeling he knows his audience does. And I guess if it's so important to you to feel like a Real Feminist that women totally like and respect that you don't mind completely ignoring what women have to say about it, you might be able to convince yourself that you're a feminist because you think it would be hot to be speared on the end of Eliza Dushku's stiletto. Not that that's a specific thought I've had or anything.

Consciousness-raising.

It's unfortunate, isn't it, that once you realize the cheesecake you've been eating all your life is actually bullshit, you can't go back to thinking it's cheesecake again.

When you have it, and when you don't.

I've started occasionally calling people out on Facebook for sexism. If they're good friends, I'll say something in a calculatedly nonthreatening, jokey way, and if they're not good friends I'll just unsubscribe from them or unfriend them depending on the severity. I'm sick of having sexist bullshit weigh on my mind all the time. I'm sick of having to justify my annoyance to myself when there are a million things I'd rather be using that mental energy for. I'm ready to stop caring what anyone thinks and start kicking it the fuck out of my space. But it gets me thinking.

Mmm, lesbians.

This might never have happened had I not read this post, so that's where you can address your letters of complaint.

The post is about how it's important not to write off all porn because most of it is soul-crushing misogynistic bullshit, and some people got to talking about what kind of porn they like and what they like about it and what disgusting pervs they are or aren't for it, but hell if you'll see me speaking up there. I suggest stopping here if you find your knowledge of my sexual proclivities perfectly adequate.